Some parents are more concerned with when they can let their children go than actually taking care of the kids. Every day, parents feel inadequate because they do not have money or cannot handle their children. These adults are not effective parents and cannot take a long-term perspective to parenting and their children become victims.
When more focus is placed on the parent than the child, the problem becomes more serious. After trying everything possible and consulting with experts do not seem to help a troubled teen, the adult often gives up the battle. To prevent the parent from harming the child any further, parental duties must be relieved.
Enter the foster parent, who takes over until the biological family gets back on track. It is just as important for this caregiver to have a long-term perspective on parenting. Foster parents who are not up for the task usually only add to the problems of the children. The worst-case scenario is placing a child in a short-term foster care situation when a long-term arrangement is necessary.
Foster children need stability, not constant change. Once the environment is stable, the child can begin working on any issues. Being shuffled from one placement to another will not permit this to happen. If a foster parent gives up on the child, this is just a replay of what happened with the biological family. The child feels abandoned, worthless, and has very low levels of trust and self-esteem.
Both foster parents and parents have a difficult job in raising troubled children. A huge amount of stamina is required and days are filled with uncertainty. This takes a toll on the adults but it cannot prevent them from being there for the children. When natural parents are unable to do their job, the foster parent must step in and help.
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